So I ask my fellow Christian friends this: when will you learn that pushing the anti-gay agenda and calling people sinners only pushes the gay away? If your aim is to see people "saved" I can tell you the quickest way to get them to run in the other direction (aside from door knocking) is to tell them you love them, but with exception. I recently read an article entitled 5 Things Jesus Would Say to the Gay Community. It started out fine because the first point was about love but from there it just went downhill as words like sin and temptation were thrown in.
So here's my PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT for all Christians still wanting to conditionally love gays:
Gay's have heard it before. They know you think they are big, filthy sinners. Please stop telling them you love them, while making sure they also know you hate their "sin." They know!
|Mark on Miley's body. Calm down, he's not on another man, it's okay.|
And if you really follow the Bible you should know that you are also a big, filthy sinner. Jesus said let him without sin cast the first stone. Yes, I'm looking at you self-righteous Christian. Let's try loving others unconditionally. That means with out condition. Isn't that how you want Jesus to love you?
Is it your job to keep repeating "Love the sinner, but hate the sin" mantra? Nope. You're only job is to love. That's it. SIMPLE. That should be a huge relief. Hopefully, a big weight just lifted off your shoulders. Now you can go forth and love gays in the same way you love hetero's, because I know you don't keep putting Bible verses up that remind your hetero friends of their sin, right?
Well, I guess I just came out as a Christian on my blog. I haven't been at all vocal about my faith or stance on anything religious on here in the past, with the exception of a few mentions to growing up in the church. But I am constantly cringing when I see Christians post things on facebook that are so hateful and discriminatory. User names like "Taking Back the Rainbow (for God)," or putting a cross over your profile photo - while everyone else posts a rainbow - only pushes this whole group of people and those who support them away. It does not bring them closer to God and isn't that your aim? To bring all people closer to God? It's time for me to address this here.
There will be friends of mine reading this who don't know a lot about my past so they will probably be wondering why I don't just delete these Christian friends from facebook. So here's my response to that. I used to be one of them. I cringe just admitting that. Slumped shoulders and all. But now I think who better to bring this topic up and start a dialogue with these friends about their belief system then me. If I delete all them from facebook then how am I really helping to promote the change I want to see within the Christian community?
Here's my story of how I changed my close-minded thinking:
I used to live in a very strict, conservative Christian organisation, which I joined as a result of wanting to do an 8 month ministry course. I didn't know going into it, when I was 20, that I would be so completely brainwashed and spiritually abused. The particular location I was in runs like a cult. I don't believe that all of the organisation runs that way but the location I was in does. One of the odd things they did was practice open confession, where members would openly confess "sins" from their past in a group, or with their leader. It was there that I discovered my new friend Alan was gay. He had come to the ministry school to try and not be gay any longer. At that point he had not come out to most people in his life, but on that first day of school he confessed he was gay to us, a group of strangers. And he did this only after our school leader, Sparky (Mark), led the way in confession by telling us his story of how he was gay, but was trying to change and be straight with God's help.
|On right - Mark being his true, fabulous self|
One night during my time there I remember a few members, including Alan, sitting in the next room watching Queer Eye for The Straight Guy. Next door in my room, I was having a little prayer session with another straight friend. I can't remember the specifics but we were praying for the gay community and for more gays to realise what they were doing was sinful and for them to come to the Lord, and stop living their homosexual lifestyle. Now I hang my head and rarely share that embarrassing story. But I am coming out with it today because it explains my grace for the Christians who populate my facebook page chanting "sinner, sinner."
All along I had thought it was the gays who needed changing, when really I was the one who needed to change.
|Alan and his partner Dan, who makes him the happiest he's ever been!|
These guys gave it their all when trying to be straight. How can anyone ask them to live a life of misery and depression. They've already spent years being miserable, and trying to shut down who they truly were.
My heart had to change, and it's a good thing it did or I would be missing out on a relationship with my own gay family members, as well as many other amazing humans.
Christians - it starts with us; it starts with focussing on love, and not sin.
Let God worry about the rest because it's not your job!
A huge thank you to Mark and Alan for letting me share what is only a tiny bit of their life stories. You are both so courageous for doing so. I applaud you for being your authentic selves.